January 2018 - My first blog
Well Christmas came and went and all I now have to show for it is some presents I haven't managed to find a space for yet, decorations that I've gotta put back on top of the wardrobe and some unopened boxes of choccie biscuits, mince pies, chocolates and sweets, with only 1 of them nearly finished and 2 of them already gone. Perfect start to January, when we're all supposed to be gym bunnies, watching what we eat and drink and attaining to look like Jessica Rabbit by the end of the month lol.
January is a funny month isn't it.... For the previous 4 weeks we've been told by social media and advertisers to spend loads on presents, eat the choccie biscuits, max out the credit cards, have that extra helping for dinner and to drink loads. Now in January instead of being surrounded by pretty fairy lights and tinsel and the hope of seeing loved ones and getting some more cool presents, we're back at work with cold/wet days, tighter clothing, no money and being a bit fed up. It's not surprising really when you think about it, all the advertisers are now telling us we need to be grown up and be responsible, lose the weight they made us put on, save money, cut down the drinking, join a gym and all the time do it with a smile on our face. But that's not reality is it, January is a miserable month, so it's no wonder we start questioning things, hoping to be slimmer, richer, prettier, more successful, smarter etc.
Then come the new year's resolutions, which, let's face it, normally last the first week or two and then make us feel worse than we did before, because now we've failed at something new. I decided to not make any resolutions, although I'm massively flawed (as many of us are), I don't know about you, but if I tell myself not to do something, it's usually the first thing I want to do! lol. I know I need to lose weight, (which I put on rapidly in the last 3.5 years since my mother's sudden death) but I also know that I need to start working out alongside eating properly and regularly, rather than constantly skipping meals or eating rubbish food, so this is a lifestyle change, not a quick fix....
Don't get me wrong, I'm not wittering on to make you feel worse about January, quite the opposite. I'm saying that we're all feeling a little tired, skint, fat, fed up, lonely, etc and that's perfectly normal. But, it's really important that we don't beat ourselves up about it or burn out in the process of striving to be perfect, because we'll never get there. IF you want to lose a bit of weight, do it, but do it for you, not because you're being made to feel guilty by the latest meal replacement campaign. If you want to get fitter, do it for you, but not because there's a good offer on at the local gym if you pay upfront for the next 12 months. I think January is about digging in, making the most of it and being there for friends and family, especially those who may be struggling a bit (emotionally, financially or in other ways.) It's important for us to keep in touch with people, by actually meeting up with them, speaking to them on the phone etc, which is something we don't do enough since social media, as this is a hard time of year for many of us. Never before has it been easier to video chat with someone thousands of miles away, but ignore the old lady next door who has no one. Social media/the internet is an awesome tool, it's helped me find out about craft events, put me in touch with people that are now friends and has kept me informed with what's going on in the world, but it should never be a replacement for actual human contact.
We've all heard the term "live every day like it's your last one", well that's all very well, but it's hard to do that when you're a single mum on 2 hours' sleep, looking after a terminally ill relative and you've currently got your hand down the loo cleaning it with bleach because no one else is going to! lol Having said that, no matter how bad things are, (or how bad you think they are), there will always be something that you can be thankful for (even if it's just the fact that you woke up this morning) and there will always be something that you do better or faster than the next person. So chin up, only 20+ days to go until we're in February and can start seeing Easter eggs being advertised ;-)